Flight Paths

On December 27, 1933, the Sinaitic Manuscript, one of the great ancient manuscripts of the Bible, arrived at the British Museum in London.  It had been purchased from the Russian Government for 100,000 pounds, which was then a little over half a million dollars.  More than half the purchase price was donated by the public.  It is said that the manuscript was greeted by a large crowd and that all the men removed their hats as it passed by them.  Respect.  For the Word of God.  Less than a century ago, by the way.
            The Sinaitic Manuscript is the earliest complete copy of the New Testament, and also contains a portion of the Greek Old Testament, the Septuagint.  It was originally found at St. Catherine's Monastery at what is believed to be the original Mt. Sinai.  Later it was sent as a gift to the Russian Czar, Alexander II.  Later of course, after Marxism took control (please note:  socialism does not like religion), first under Lenin and then Stalin, it became something they were happy to dispense with, especially at the price believers were more than willing to pay. (Lightfoot, How We Got the Bible)
            And what is happening today?  Even by people who study it as their career, it is called a book of ancient myths, full of errors, and certainly not authoritative for our lives.  You can find websites that regularly poke fun or ask ridiculous questions (that only show the askers' ignorance) designed to denigrate the Bible.  Moses did not write the Pentateuch.  Abraham never really existed.  The Gospel of John is anti-Semitic.  Daniel is history written to look like prophecy.  Isaiah was written in two or three sections, some much later than the other.  Those last two are supposed to undo the great evidence of prophecy in both of those books.
            When I was a child, I heard someone famous, I don't remember who, say on television that one day the Bible would be banned in America but eagerly read in Russia.  That was the height of the Cold War and an unthinkable idea.  Now I am not so sure.  So what do we do about it?
            People have denied, defamed, and even destroyed Bibles for a long, long time.  Stop, take a breath, and calm down.  This is the Word of God we are talking about, a Word He has kept safe for us through thousands of years in ways no one can legitimately deny.  It will not cease to exist no matter what happens in our time.   Heaven and earth shall pass away: but my words shall not pass away (Luke 21:33).  Show that Word the respect it deserves in your keeping of it, and in your speech about it.  Study it like it actually means something to you and follow it no matter what it costs. 
            Take off your "hat" in your heart whenever it passes by.
 
For all flesh is like grass and all its glory like the flower of grass.  The grass withers, and the flower falls, but the word of the Lord remains forever, 1 Pet 1:24.                        

 Dene Ward        

Since most folks will be spending a good deal of time either welcoming in family or traveling to family in the next week, plus an inordinate amount of time shopping and cooking, it seemed best to take a break rather than use up new posts when few if any will be reading them.  So I will not be posting again until Tuesday, December 27.
          In the meantime, if you are still reading over this week, and I hope many of you are, please check out either the archives or the categories, both on the right sidebar.  If you are a new reader, you have missed roughly 1,000 posts!  So count this as a time to catch up.  If you are an old faithful reader, you will be surprised at what you have forgotten, especially if you are my age!
          Whatever may be the case, I hope you have a good season of family gatherings and I will be back with you before you know it!

Dene Ward

There has always been an "In Crowd".  I'm not sure exactly how it starts but by middle school—junior high in my day—it's in full bloom.  It doesn't stop there.  It continues into adulthood—in colleges, in neighborhoods, in work forces, anywhere people congregate.  Adults, mind you, who are still judging people by the same immature standards they did as children.  If you are different in any way from their "ideal," if you act differently—too quiet or too obvious—if you dress differently, if you are too intelligent or not intelligent enough, if you speak differently, and especially if you look different, if you have a health problem and especially if that problem makes your behavior, speech, or appearance different from others, you are not and never will be part of the In Crowd.  It's just another form of bigotry.
            And here is the saddest truth of all:  it even exists among the Lord's people.  When people began to follow Jesus in earnest, the scribes and Pharisees—the In Crowd of the day—said, "This multitude that does not know the law [like we do] is accursed" John 7:49.  It really had nothing to do with the Law, but everything to do with their view of the Law (traditions) and the power they wanted to wield as the elite.  They had nothing but contempt for the people they were supposed to be leading.
            In their day it was a matter of status and power and wealth.  When Jesus' preaching ripped them to shreds and left the common people feeling the hope and joy of acceptance by God, he was signing his own death warrant.  When he ate with publicans, spoke to and accepted financing from women, taught Samaritans, healed lepers, the epileptic, and the demon-possessed, and forgave the vilest of sinners, he was announcing that he had no use for the superficiality of those who considered themselves God's gift to—well, God Himself.
            And it happens in the church too.  I've seen doctrinal matters decided not by scripture, but by who knows what Big Name Preacher, on which wealthier family believes what, or on who liked whose personality better—in short, on who was in the In Crowd.
            And just like in the world, it starts with the children.  If there was ever a group that should not have its share of "mean girls" (or boys), it's the disciples of a Lord who went out of his way to accept the ones who were outside looking in.  There's no excuse for us allowing our children to grow up thinking they can shun or ridicule someone who isn't "cool" or "pretty" or "fun," or who doesn't wear the latest styles, or like the coolest teen idols, or any other such shallow reason.  They will not outgrow it.  They will just turn into the adult version, just as shallow and sometimes just as mean.  Those adults will avoid speaking to and even do their best to avoid running into the ones who are not on the right list.  And those poor folks will sit alone at services, stand alone afterward, and, as a result, feel alone in the midst of a laughing and chattering crowd.
            You may not know it is happening.  Could I suggest that it might be because you are already in the In Crowd, too happy to even notice the others?  If we are to nip this in the bud, do this today:  Ask your child, "Is there anyone in your Bible class that you never talk to?  Anyone you will not sit next to?  Anyone you and your friends talk about and even laugh about?"  Then make sure they are telling you the truth.  (Joanne Beckley recently wrote a powerful post on how to tell if your child is lying to you.)  If they have sat in Bible classes long enough, they will know the right answers whether they are doing the right things or not.  But this is important and you need to make it clear to them.  If they are old enough to be baptized believers, tell them that such behavior is not following the steps of the Lord they claimed.  It is bigotry every bit as much as racism.  And it is not acceptable; it is sin.
            Then look at yourself and see if you are the one who taught them such behavior.
            When we persist in these things, we may be the ones who, on that last day, find ourselves on the outside looking in.
 
I myself will feed my sheep and I myself will make them lie down, declares the sovereign LORD. I will seek the lost and bring back the strays; I will bandage the injured and strengthen the sick, but the fat and the strong I will destroy. I will feed them – with judgment! (Ezek 34:15-16)

And he went throughout all Galilee, teaching in their synagogues and proclaiming the gospel of the kingdom and healing every disease and every affliction among the people. So his fame spread throughout all Syria, and they brought him all the sick, those afflicted with various diseases and pains, those oppressed by demons, epileptics, and paralytics, and he healed them. And great crowds followed him from Galilee and the Decapolis, and from Jerusalem and Judea, and from beyond the Jordan. (Matt 4:23-25)
 
Dene Ward

I was ready to tell you that this one might be difficult to find, that you might have to look on used book sites like Thriftbooks and Abebooks, or that you might have to scour used book stores, or perhaps the used book section in the Florida College Chatlos Library.  But guess what?  I found it on Amazon! 
            So what is it about?  The complete title might help:  Attitudes and Consequences in the Restoration Movement.  If, like me, you are a third generation Christian and wonder exactly how you got where you are, this book might answer the question.  It will also answer a few other questions you might have like, "Why have people called me a Campbellite?" and "Is the Christian Church related to us in any fashion at all?"  Yes, it is a history of the 19th century movement called, at first, the Reformation, but later, the Restoration Movement.  The point is, to not just reform Protestant religions, but to scrap everything and start over completely, restoring the New Testament Church and its pattern in worship, work, and living.
            The book does get bogged down occasionally with extensive quotations from various preachers, but no one can accuse the author of misrepresenting anyone that way.  He tells it warts and all, it seems to me.  In some cases I was a little aghast at statements those old fellows made, though they were not old when they made them.  These were zealous men in the prime of their lives who saw no religious group following the New Testament pattern and sought to change that in an effort to promote unity among everyone claiming to be a Christian, for the sake of spreading the Gospel.  But when people would not give up their cherished beliefs, no matter how wrong they were shown to be, they settled for gathering the ones who would and became a strong movement for the Truth of the Word.  They were ridiculed by many, but many others joined the choruses we have heard all our lives:  "Where the Scripture speaks, we speak; where the Scripture is silent we are silent," and "For every action we must have a 'Thus saith the Lord.'"  It is the development of that attitude that the book follows.
            As was even the case in the First Century, there was a falling away, and the author chronicles that as well.  Those who were born after the original printing of this book (1945) can tell of similar problems that have risen in their own lifetimes.  If nothing else, the book encourages us to stay faithful.  It may not be for everyone, but for those of us who "have always wondered," it could be a profitable read.
            Attitudes and Consequences was republished by Truth Publications in 2011.
 
Dene Ward
 

Today's post is by guest writer Lucas Ward

Moses was the leader of the children of Israel as they wandered through the wilderness.  He was the law-giver, the one who judged between the people and the one who consecrated the priesthood.  To worldly eyes, he was in all intents and purposes a king.  In fact, that was the gripe that Dathan and Abiram had with him when they joined Korah in his rebellion.  They thought Moses had gotten too big for his britches.  God, of course, showed them otherwise.  One might look at all this and think, "Wow, what authority!"  But look at these passages:

Num. 9:6-8  "And there were certain men who were unclean through touching a dead body, so that they could not keep the Passover on that day, and they came before Moses and Aaron on that day.  And those men said to him, “We are unclean through touching a dead body. Why are we kept from bringing the LORD's offering at its appointed time among the people of Israel?”  And Moses said to them, “Wait, that I may hear what the LORD will command concerning you.”" 
Num. 15:32-35  "While the people of Israel were in the wilderness, they found a man gathering sticks on the Sabbath day.  And those who found him gathering sticks brought him to Moses and Aaron and to all the congregation.  They put him in custody, because it had not been made clear what should be done to him.   And the LORD said to Moses . . ."
Num. 27:1-5  "Then drew near the daughters of Zelophehad the son of Hepher, son of Gilead, son of Machir, son of Manasseh, from the clans of Manasseh the son of Joseph. The names of his daughters were: Mahlah, Noah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Tirzah.  And they stood before Moses and before Eleazar the priest and before the chiefs and all the congregation, at the entrance of the tent of meeting, saying, “Our father died in the wilderness. He was not among the company of those who gathered themselves together against the LORD in the company of Korah, but died for his own sin. And he had no sons.  Why should the name of our father be taken away from his clan because he had no son? Give to us a possession among our father's brothers.”  Moses brought their case before the LORD." 
Num. 36:2-5  "They said, “The LORD commanded my lord to give the land for inheritance by lot to the people of Israel, and my lord was commanded by the LORD to give the inheritance of Zelophehad our brother to his daughters.  But if they are married to any of the sons of the other tribes of the people of Israel, then their inheritance will be taken from the inheritance of our fathers and added to the inheritance of the tribe into which they marry. So it will be taken away from the lot of our inheritance.  And when the jubilee of the people of Israel comes, then their inheritance will be added to the inheritance of the tribe into which they marry, and their inheritance will be taken from the inheritance of the tribe of our fathers.”  And Moses commanded the people of Israel according to the word of the LORD"

            Do you see the common thread in all of these passages?  In each of these cases something came up for which God had not yet issued a commandment.  Surely Moses, in his wisdom and in his place as trusted servant of God, could be trusted to make the judgment himself, right?  Yet Moses never did this.  In every case we see him going to God to ask, or waiting for God to speak.  Moses never usurped God's authority, never added to what God had told him to say, never took anything away.  When Moses spoke, he "commanded the people of Israel according to the word of the Lord." 
            Most of the religious world needs to relearn the humility and dedication of Moses.
 
2 John 1:9  "Everyone who goes on ahead and does not abide in the teaching of Christ, does not have God. Whoever abides in the teaching has both the Father and the Son."
 
Lucas Ward
 

A few weeks ago we piled into the car and headed off for town.  As we reached the western end of the driveway, we saw a stack of pine limbs, 12-15 feet long and still green, as if someone had simply cut them off and laid them there.  Keith stopped the car and stared.
            "What happened here?"
            We went over it together.  I had been by the spot late the afternoon before and seen only the usual foot high field of grass shaded from the afternoon sun by the line of oaks and wild cherries along the west fence.  We had a few gray clouds that evening, as we do nearly every afternoon and evening in the summer, and maybe a quick shower, but no thunderstorm.  Once the evening deepened into pure night, all was still and warm and humid—nothing unusual at all.  It may be five acres, but the distance from the house near the eastern side and the pines on the west is not really that far.  How had this happened without us knowing it?
            Obviously, a small eddy had blown through the pines, and sixty feet above ground it was stronger than you might imagine had you been standing beneath.  I have seen those eddies before.  Sometimes they stir up the dust out in the field where there is no shelter from the trees, but where the trees are thick, they stay aloft.  For it to tear large green limbs meant it was a strong one, but also localized.  Spread out it would not have done any damage.  And so it left us with a neat pile of limbs that Keith hauled to the fire pit for the coming fall.
            When these eye crises first began to hit me, my whole world turned upside down.  I couldn't keep house or cook, I couldn't teach Bible classes, and I had to close my music studio.  Eventually I missed three months of assemblies because of the pain and the appointments and the surgeries and the medication schedule.  When I did make it back and the announcements began I had a bad moment or two.  That week was a baby shower.  The next week was a wedding.  In two weeks was a potluck.  My poor little me self said, "How can they keep on having fun like this?  Don't they know my world is a shambles?"
            Of course that didn't last, but it did come to the surface.  When you are having your own personal storm, you wonder how anyone else can remain unaffected.  Don't they see how miserable you are and how dire the situation?  Don't they care anything about you at all?  Something selfish inside you wants everyone to cry with you.  Maybe that's where the old saying comes from:  Misery loves company.  I was having my own little storm in a localized area and it wasn't affecting anyone downwind.  Or so it felt.
            Okay, so where do we go with this?  First, I am reminded of the injunction to "Rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep" (Rom 12:15).  We are all to share in one another's burdens.  If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together. (1Cor 12:26).  Remember those who are in prison, as though in prison with them, and those who are mistreated, since you also are in the body (Heb 13:3).  Knowing that others care about what is happening to you makes the trials somewhat easier to bear. 
            But there is always, as I said above, the selfishness that must be overcome.  I may be having a storm in my life.  That does not mean that anyone who does not know about it and act like the same storm is ruling their lives doesn't care.  Too many times we act like we have been specially set up to judge others in how they offer their compassion and help.  If it doesn't come when I want and the way I want, they are unloving.  And that of course, can lead to the excuse so many use for leaving the church.  "You didn't come visit me when I was in the hospital.  The elders didn't call, the preacher didn't hold my hand and pray over me, none of the members sent me a card."  Yet, when pressed in the matter you will usually find out one of two things:  the problem wasn't ignored; it was unknown because it was not shared.  Somehow everyone should just "know"—if I have to say anything, they aren't caring enough.  Or, "no one" is a gross exaggeration.
            And it also insinuates that because no one helped me the way I expected and thought they ought to, that I am now excused for any bad behavior.  For because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted. (Heb 2:18).  That passage seems to imply that one of the purposes of suffering is so we can learn to help others who are also suffering.  That's what it did for the Lord I claim to be following.  I am supposed to be learning something here, not judging others.  And if I really do learn it, then it becomes my responsibility to do better than the ones I think left me high and dry--not castigating them or using them as an excuse for my own bad conduct, but showing them the way.
            Once my mind cleared that morning, I knew that others were affected by my storm.  They came in droves with hugs, welcoming me back to the assembly.  They had sent me off to difficult surgeries with hugs and money in my pockets for the expenses.  They had fasted and prayed during my scariest operation.  They had taken turns carrying me back and forth to the doctor after Keith ran out of leave time to do it.  That is usually the case when you let your brothers and sisters know your needs, when you share your fears and troubles.  If no one knows you are in a storm, that's your fault entirely.  Don't let a few moments of self-absorption steal the joy of brotherhood.
 
Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. (Gal 6:2)
 
Dene Ward

…the Sermon on the Mount is not a soporific sentimentality designed to induce a kind of feeble-minded do-goodism.  Nor do these chapters tolerate the opinion that Jesus' views on righteousness have been so tempered with love that righteousness slips to a lower level than when its standards were dictated by Law.  Instead we discover that the righteousness demanded by Jesus surpasses anything imagined by the Pharisees, the strict orthodox religious group of Jesus' day.  Christ's way is more challenging and more demanding—as well as more rewarding—than any legal system can ever be.  Moreover, his way was prophetically indicated before it actually arrived; as Paul says, But now a righteousness from God, apart from the Law, has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify (Rom 3:21). 

The Sermon on the Mount, An Evangelical Exposition of Matthew 5-7, by D. A. Carson

This is another aspect of devotional Bible reading that we discussed on the podcast I mentioned yesterday.  How in the world can Bible reading be dangerous?  Let's see…
            I think the first danger might be that we stop with that kind of reading and never progress further.  Remember what we said yesterday about keeping a journal?  That journal should lead you to a more complete study, the kind that involves analysis, noting repeated words and phrases, looking up word meanings, making charts and lists and perhaps pulling out a few reference books.  Stopping with simple devotional reading is like stopping the meal after the appetizer.  It will also keep you firmly in the "milk" zone rather moving on to the meat.  (Pardon my mixed metaphors, at least they are all food!)
            Another danger is that your reading will become a mere mechanical habit.  Instead of reading slowly and stopping occasionally to consider a point or make a note to pursue later, it can easily turn into, "Read my Bible today—check!"  God's Word is precious.  Don't ever treat it like your toothbrush.
            A final danger is that our "Me" culture can easily get in the way.  When all I want is something that "resonates" with me, that makes me feel good, that brings a tear to my eye or makes the hair stand up on my head, my Bible reading has become about Me instead of the God I worship; about what I like, not what He says and I need to hear.  All of us need a challenge occasionally, or even a good swift (verbal) kick once in a while.  I need to read those too, and I must not make my likes and dislikes cause me to avoid certain parts of God's Word.
            As we discussed yesterday, devotional reading can be a good and helpful part of our lives as Christians.  Just be aware that, as always, Satan knows how to take even the good and twist it into something bad.  Even he quoted the Word of God.
            If you would like to hear the podcast, you can find it easily.  On Facebook search for "Working with the Word."  Go to that page and look for the post that has my name on it.  Click on that link and it will take you straight to my interview.  I can't say it's perfect by any means.  Most of these last two articles are things I wish I had said!  But maybe you will learn some other things and will find this podcast something you might like to listen to in the future.  In fact, you can search their Facebook page while you are there for other subjects you might be interested in and listen to them.  I am sure that Emerson Brown and Jeff O'Rear would appreciate your support.
 
They read from the book, from the Law of God, clearly, and they gave the sense, so that the people understood the reading…They read from the book, from the Law of God, clearly, and they gave the sense, so that the people understood the reading (Neh 8:8,12).          Dene Ward

Recently I was asked to record a podcast on Devotional Bible Reading.  It took me a few minutes to realize what they meant, despite the fact that I write daily devotionals.  My definition of this type of reading versus Inductive Bible reading, would be the reading we do more or less casually, usually on a daily basis, and with no real aim in mind beyond that.  Inductive reading, then would be more of a study method involving reference works and cross referencing other passages in the Bible, with some writing almost always included.  They didn't tell me I was wrong when I gave them those definitions so I'm sticking with them.
            At first thought, devotional Bible reading seems almost pointless, but now that I have actually thought about it, I can see several advantages.  First, it gets the Word into your head.  You would be surprised how many things I was taught incorrectly as a child.  I am sure the teacher just knew the narrative so well that she didn't bother to read it again and told what she had always heard or remembered.  That is exactly how errors get passed from generation to generation.  I remember the first time I discovered an error like this.  I had pulled down my Bible and actually read what it said.  I sat back in shock for several minutes.  Over the years I have discovered several more of these instances.  It isn't that we have false teachers in the church who deliberately set out to teach our children incorrect details.  It's that we are sometimes a little lazy and we know we know it so why bother taking the time to read it again?  Because you may not know what you think you know, that's why.
            Another advantage is the ingrained habit of reading the Word of God on a schedule.  Once you train yourself to do it, you generally keep on doing it even when times are rough and life is difficult.  While I do not believe in any sort of mysticism, I do believe in God's providential care.  Who knows but as you sit there reading that particular morning (or evening), you might come across something that is just what you need right then?  Sort of like assembling.  I do not remember a time in my life when I did not assemble with the saints on Sunday morning.  Even when my spirits were low and my spirituality suffered, I went out of habit.  But where was the best place for me at such a time in my life?  Right there where I might hear something I needed, or receive an encouragement that pulled me out of the pit.  The same can be true of a practiced habit of daily reading.  A passage may "speak" to you, even a familiar passage, like it never has before. 
            A third advantage may be that Devotional Reading might be easier to relate to your life at that moment.  When you are studying more deeply, you are looking up word meanings, studying customs and geography, and finding other pertinent passages.  The nuts and bolts of taking a passage apart can completely rip the fabric of application, while a more casual reading might instantly make sense for a problem you are currently facing.  I remember tearing a passage to pieces one day, then looking with satisfaction on my paper full of notes only to suddenly think, "So how does this help me tomorrow?"  It didn't actually.  I may have learned a few things, but it didn't help me live a bit better the next morning.
            A final advantage could be that it moves you on to that deeper study we have been contrasting it to.  Keep a journal beside you as you read.  It will help you keep track of where you've been, but you can also write down things to study more intently later on.  What does this word mean?  Is this character mentioned anywhere else in the Bible?  (Do you know who that king Absalom ran off to was?)  How far is this place from that place?  (Do you know how far Hannah was from Samuel after she took him to the tabernacle?)  How much money is this (that the Samaritan left to care for a perfect stranger or that the Christians were giving when they sold property in Acts 4)?  And then, just write down things that are bothering you that particular day or that you struggle with.  All of those things can lead you to a longer, and maybe more beneficial study at another time.
            If you aren't reading your Bible daily, I hope you will start.  Two men in the Bible were told to "eat" God's Word—Ezekiel and John (Ezekiel 2:8; Revelation 10:9).  It is our spiritual sustenance.  You really can't do without it.
 
​The sum of your word is truth, and every one of your righteous rules endures forever. Princes persecute me without cause, but my heart stands in awe of your words (Ps 119:160-161).
 
Dene Ward

As I write today, which is probably a month or more before this posting, we are approaching three years since Mama left us for a better home.  It took over a year before I stopped thinking, "I need to call her and tell her about this."  It took even longer before the car stopped veering to that particular exit on the interstate.  And even now, friends still tell me they miss her as well, and share funny stories and a tear or two.
            We moved her up here when she was 87.  We were already dealing with our own age, health problems, and increasing disabilities so a five hour round trip to see about her even just once a month was becoming difficult.  Then after three years here, when living alone (her preference) even so much closer to us, was no longer safe for her, we had to go the assisted living route.  Her doctor said we lived too far from him and the hospital—about thirty miles out in the country.  Due to my Daddy's careful stewardship, we were able to find a good place in town, and between us and her church family, she was the most visited resident there.  We were told that she received more visits in a week than the rest of the community did in a year.  How sad is that for them? 
            We stopped by no less than twice a week, took her to every doctor appointment, and brought her out here for every holiday, Mother's Day, birthdays, and a few others days for good measure.  Let's be honest here:  it was wearing; it was time-consuming; it was inconvenient; it was expensive—especially the gas!  But so was I, not for a mere four and a half years as it turned out, but for 20!  Which doesn't count all the continuing worry parents feel after you are out on your own.
            When, after two weeks, it became apparent that particular hospital stay was going to be the last, I had only one last thing I could do for her.  I moved myself into her hospital room for four days, and then into her hospice room for the final four.  Sleep was impossible.  Eating depended upon whether anyone had brought something by.  I talked to her.  I answered the hard, almost impossible questions.  I held her head up for a sip of water and fed her yogurt—the only thing she could stomach—a quarter teaspoon at a time, a couple of bites at a time.  In the end, I just held her hand and waited for the last breath.  It was my final gift to her and I will always be grateful I could give it.
            But she gave me a final gift as well.  In those last four and a half years, I got to know her as a person, not just Mama.  I found out what a marvelous sense of humor she had.  She kept people in stitches—sometimes in the middle of church services!  She was full of compassion, especially for the people everyone else look down on.  She was friendly—I could leave her in a waiting room while I paid the bill and made her next appointment only to come out and find her chatting away with a perfect stranger, then wishing her well in her upcoming surgery as we left!  That's how close she had gotten in five minutes.  She shared with me stories I had never heard before—about her childhood, dating Daddy, and her early married years, a treasure trove I will always have. 
            And now I have great memories—of a person, not just a parent.  Perhaps too many of us expect perfection from a parent and cling to their mistakes, while we might more easily forgive a fellow human being for simply being "human."  In those last few years my mother apologized again and again for not being her idea of the "perfect mother."  I had to shush her with constant reassurances.  All those years ago she had to learn to be a Christian, a wife, and a mother all at the same time without the blessing of "growing up in the church."  Mistakes she made were more than understandable. 
           As she lay on her deathbed, she still worried about me.  "Get some sleep," she would say, not realizing that she had her days and nights turned around and I was up with her every 15 minutes all night long.  And she asked if I thought Daddy was still waiting for her.
            "Of course he is," I told her, "and right now he's getting pretty excited."
            All those gifts I would not trade for the world.  Don't throw away your chance to receive the same.  You will never regret it.
 
When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to his mother, “Woman, behold, your son!” Then he said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother!” And from that hour the disciple took her to his own home (John 19:26-27).
 
Dene Ward