When we moved to our new home in Tampa, we renovated more
than the house. The grass was patchy and
thin. The front walk from the driveway
to the door was nearly overgrown with schefflera on both sides. You almost needed a machete to get
through. The podocarpus were trimmed
like a French poodle and the gardenia by the front door nearly covered the
front step and rarely bloomed. The
oleanders were spindly and almost bare. First
the sod went in and then out came the oleanders and the schefflera that hid the
front walk. The rest of them we trimmed
so we could see out the windows. We
allowed the podocarpus to grow and fill in the strange shapes they had been
pruned into and finally, they look almost normalâa sentinel on each side of the
garage.
Finally, we found
what we wanted by the front doorâa triple hibiscus that blooms red, pink, and
yellow. Out came the gardenia which had
proved such a disappointment, and in went the hibiscus, which has been a
beautiful addition to the entry. Every
morning I open the door to count the blooms and the colors. It is now 6 feet high and fills that spot
perfectly.
I am especially
happy with the hibiscus. When I was a
small child in Orlando, the first house I remember sat at the top of an
inclined cul-de-sac, or what most people back then called a dead end
street. It was a two bedroom, one bath
concrete block house, painted green with a maroon trim around the roof and on
the front screen door. A back screened
porch had been closed in to make a "TV room" as we called it, which
left the small front room as a living room where we received our guests, mostly
family and church people. I found the
original sale price of the house sometime in the past few yearsâsomething
around $7000, if I remember correctly.
It couldn't have been more than 900 sq ft.
Besides the front
step, on the left side of the house under the front bedroom windows was an
attached brick planter. My mother grew
roses there and something she called "shrimp plants." You can look it up yourself to find the big
fancy name, and picture of the blooms that do indeed look a bit like shrimp. On the right side of the house, which I
always thought was east and only found out was west when I grew up, she had
planted a hibiscus with bright red blooms as large as my little girl head. I must have really liked that plant because I
remember it so well
. In the last few years of my mother's life,
she began telling me stories of both her childhood and mine as a baby and
toddler, things I could never have remembered myself. She said that my Daddy had taught me the
names of all the car makes by the time I was three and I could point to any car
on the road and tell him what it was. He
enjoyed showing me off to his friends, whom, she said, were amazed. One time I pointed to a car and told him it
was a "Wincoln." The only
problem was, its turn signal was going and they never really knew if I was
saying it was a "Wincoln," or it was "winkin'.
But more to the
point this morning is the time she and I walked around the house on the west
side and I saw a hibiscus bloom close to the ground. She said that I asked, "Mommy, is that a
lobiscus?" It took her a moment to
realize that when I heard the name "hibiscus" what I really heard was
"high-biscus," so of course a bloom near the ground would be a
low-biscus to me.
Children are
smarter than most people credit them.
They make connections that we in our orderly-minded way cannot. Children with disabilities sometimes learn
things that no one ever expected them to be able to do or remember because they
come up with ways to do them that no one else had thought of, thinking
"outside the box" as we call it as if it were some adult-only
possibility. When you consider that
children with parents from two different nationalities can learn more than one
language in the first two years of life, it ought not to be such a surprise.
God knows
children far better than some of their parents do. The things I have seen small children learn
will just plain knock your socks off.
And so it shouldn't be such a surprise that God expected children to ask
questions and even arranged things specifically for that reason.
When your children ask you, âWhat does this ritual mean to you? âyou
are to reply, âIt is the Passover sacrifice to the LORD, for He passed over the
houses of the Israelites in Egypt when He struck the Egyptians and spared our
homes.â â So the people bowed down and worshiped Exod12: 26,27.
Even today, Orthodox Jews, when celebrating
the Passover, have their children ask, "The Four Questions," so that
the story of God's deliverance is remembered and passed to each generation.
That was not the only time God set things
up specifically to cause the younger generation to ask questions. After
the entire nation had finished crossing the Jordan, the LORD spoke to
Joshua:âChoose 12 men from the people, one man for each tribe, and command
them: Take 12 stones from this place in the middle of the Jordan where the
priests are standing, carry them with you, and set them down at the place where
you spend the night.â So Joshua summoned the 12 men he had selected from the
Israelites, one man for each tribe, and said to them, âGo across to the ark of
the LORD your God in the middle of the Jordan. Each of you lift a stone onto
his shoulder, one for each of the Israelite tribes, so that this
will be a sign among you. In the future, when your children ask you, âWhat do
these stones mean to you? â you should tell them, âThe waters of the Jordan
were cut off in front of the ark of the LORDâs covenant. When it crossed the
Jordan, the Jordanâs waters were cut off.â Therefore these stones will always
be a memorial for the IsraelitesâJosh4:1-7.
And we could go on and on with them. Surely today we should heed that example and
pass on our rituals and commandments to our children, telling them exactly why
we do what we do. One of the saddest
things in the world is parents who do not take the time to answer their
children's questions, and treat those questions as a bother.
Today, take that time. Tell them why, even if they don't ask. Maybe you have worn it out of them by not
answering in the past. Show them now
that you will answer, and share your God and your faith with the ones who
should matter the most to you.
âWhen your son asks
you in the future, âWhat is the meaning of the decrees, statutes, and
ordinances, which the LORD our God has commanded you? â tell him, âWe were
slaves of Pharaoh in Egypt, but the LORD brought us out of Egypt with a strong
hand. Before our eyes the LORD inflicted great and devastating signs and
wonders on Egypt, on Pharaoh, and on all his household, but He brought us from
there in order to lead us in and give us the land that He swore to our fathers.
The LORD commanded us to follow all these statutes and to fear the LORD our God
for our prosperity always and for our preservation, as it is today. Righteousness
will be ours if we are careful to follow every one of these commands before the
LORD our God, as He has commanded usâDeut6:20-25.