Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, Eph 5:25
Abraham married his half-sister Sarah. He was surrounded by polygamy. His friends and neighbors in Ur and later in Canaan were likely polygamists. He was wealthy and polygamy was far more common among the rich. It took money to support several wives and a few dozen children. And—Sarah had not given him an heir. That alone would have been cause for the men of that place and era to find a second, or even third wife. I can just imagine a neighbor stopping by and saying, "Abraham, my daughter is marriageable now. She is healthy and could give you the children Sarah has not." I can even imagine that happening several times.
But Abraham did not succumb for decades. He was 85 when Sarah finally prevailed upon him to take Hagar as a second wife, a concubine since she was a servant. (Concubines are wives of second rank. Gen 16:3). It took Sarah's great love for her husband and great faith in the plan of God—that there had to be an heir for the promises to come about—before he would even think of doing so.
Somehow, this man of God had learned the Divine Plan of God for marriage—one man for one woman for one lifetime—and had lived up to it, even among rampant, and culturally acceptable, polygamy. This man had learned to love his wife "as his own body" thousands of years before Paul put it into words.
We miss all that because none of us would have ever even dreamed of polygamy to solve the problem. We miss it because monogamy is second nature to us. We miss the love this man had for his wife, even after she had grown old and unable to bear him a child, a child God said had to be born for all those promises He made to come about. Still he was willing to wait, willing to be satisfied with the woman he had originally chosen, when no one else he knew would have.
And how many of us become dissatisfied over the trivial, dissatisfied enough to trade one in for a new model, as the old saying goes? How many of us can match the devotion these two people had for each other through thick or thin, for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse? How many of us jump at the first "worse" there is to get out of it?
See what you miss when you don't study the culture of the times? See what you miss when you think we are so much smarter, so much wiser, so much more knowledgeable about God than those ancient people were? Drop your baggage at the door and see what they have to teach you.
In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” (Eph 5:28-31)
Dene Ward
Abraham married his half-sister Sarah. He was surrounded by polygamy. His friends and neighbors in Ur and later in Canaan were likely polygamists. He was wealthy and polygamy was far more common among the rich. It took money to support several wives and a few dozen children. And—Sarah had not given him an heir. That alone would have been cause for the men of that place and era to find a second, or even third wife. I can just imagine a neighbor stopping by and saying, "Abraham, my daughter is marriageable now. She is healthy and could give you the children Sarah has not." I can even imagine that happening several times.
But Abraham did not succumb for decades. He was 85 when Sarah finally prevailed upon him to take Hagar as a second wife, a concubine since she was a servant. (Concubines are wives of second rank. Gen 16:3). It took Sarah's great love for her husband and great faith in the plan of God—that there had to be an heir for the promises to come about—before he would even think of doing so.
Somehow, this man of God had learned the Divine Plan of God for marriage—one man for one woman for one lifetime—and had lived up to it, even among rampant, and culturally acceptable, polygamy. This man had learned to love his wife "as his own body" thousands of years before Paul put it into words.
We miss all that because none of us would have ever even dreamed of polygamy to solve the problem. We miss it because monogamy is second nature to us. We miss the love this man had for his wife, even after she had grown old and unable to bear him a child, a child God said had to be born for all those promises He made to come about. Still he was willing to wait, willing to be satisfied with the woman he had originally chosen, when no one else he knew would have.
And how many of us become dissatisfied over the trivial, dissatisfied enough to trade one in for a new model, as the old saying goes? How many of us can match the devotion these two people had for each other through thick or thin, for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse? How many of us jump at the first "worse" there is to get out of it?
See what you miss when you don't study the culture of the times? See what you miss when you think we are so much smarter, so much wiser, so much more knowledgeable about God than those ancient people were? Drop your baggage at the door and see what they have to teach you.
In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” (Eph 5:28-31)
Dene Ward
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